I was reading up this Wheel of Time series, and I found a very interesting way of containing one's anger. It is called the "River contained by the banks" technique. The book only tells of the name of the technique, and mentions that it is not uncommonly used by novices of the White Tower. I think the process of the technique would go something like this: To contain all your thoughts and give them a direction to flow, intead of anger letting your thoughts go haywire into many directions.
It is not a failed safe method though. The River cannot be contained by the banks when flood happens. I have come up with a few others, though more practical research needs to substantiate the hypothesis.
If one have a more controlled mind, then perhaps the "Mirror's true image" technique would work best for you, where you see yourself in the mirror, a calm and pure yourself, devoid of any anger or discomposure. This will calm your frayed nerves and cool your heated mind.
Or one may try the "Catterpillar transforms into butterfly" technique, where you see yourself immerse from the current umcomposed state into a calm, composed and elegant person, where anger transformed into forgiveness and warm hearted.
All these depends highly on the person's ability to remember to do these techniques before lashing out their anger: to remember to count for the count method to be successful, to remember the techniques of containment for the River to be contained, to remember the Magic Mirror to see your improved image, to remember to transform into a butterfly before the anger takes over you. Because all these have the technique have the fatal flaw of being forgotten at the most crucial moment: the heat of the moment when it is most required.
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my techniques for anger management:
get into a fight, because anger makes you fearless of any physical or mortal injury.
well, the consequences can be painful later, but then, most management techniques have flaws and give pain later (read current financial crisis).
running till you die or anger dies also helps.
ps- i have no control over my anger. :)
I see. your method is more like "The Tiger strikes with the Claw"
or the "Waves lashes against the shore" techniques.
The last running method is similar to "The deer takes flight" strategy.
Most techniques have flaws unless one consciously adopts one because one wants to adopt one.
@phoenix
True, techniques are useful only when one uses them. By themselves they are nothing but words written somewhere.
.. See for urself.. One's anger is not his weakness.. It's more his inability to resolve the situation.
It's sad though.. he doesn't know what to do. But if he realizes that anger has no reason to exist at the first place... that It by itself cannot accomplish ur intentions.. that which can be by a careful and calm thought.
Imagine it to be a soft of puzzle.. like doing an ugly math problem, trying to decipher the text.
When does one get angry.. think.
When he's dealing with people in his team and can't make them just understand ur ideas or make them do their part of the work properly. Well then it's a problem involving... an understanding of their psychological behaviour... if he's a lazy guy? find something that motivates him. Well of course it's just an example.
Another reason when one gets angry... when the person we'r dealing with is taking us for a ride or not giving us the attention we need.. Well of course.. then angry might be at its place.. since controlling people by putting fear in them is a common thing in our society and most of the time, acceptable.. But think for urself.. It was needed only for that situation.. and was inevitable. One must get back to his true self to get control over his thoughts.
I hope i've given some of my insight for the intended.
Concluding with a thought.... "Keep Smiling".
@boulder
Thank you for the warm words of wisdom. Verily as you said, anger is a justified form of emotion and we must not totally remove them from our psyche.
The methods I have presented here are not a way to remove anger from us. It is a way only to contain it before we do something foolish. The anger will be there, but it is in a controlled form.
Justified anger must be present if we are to get our head above others and not be crushed down.
dear johney,
Others?? We'r sooo Entwined in this Competition, aren't we??
Hope a day comes when we could have a path undeterred from influences. What a Life would it be then for us :D
Dear Boulder
Yes, what a life it would be, to have a path that is undeterred.
You speak of a competition, of which I am not aware of. lol
I should have chosen my words carefully. Instead of "we are to get our head above others" I should have used "We are to get our head in level with others".
Some day my choice of words would be the end of me.
@super
You mean to say I need professional help? lol
Sometimes I do wonder about it if I really do professional help.
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